Parenthood is wonderful and amazing, but it can also be overwhelming and isolating, especially in the first few weeks when you have a newborn. Here’s how to emotionally and physically support a friend who is a new parent.
Offer to do something
Often people say, “Let me know if you need anything” to new parents, but that leaves it up to them to ask for help when they need it, which is something a lot of people struggle to do. Instead, offer to do something specific, like volunteering to watch the baby while the parents take a nap, or to come over and help with household chores like washing the dishes or doing the laundry.
Take care of supper
If you have children of your own, you’ll know that the first weeks with a newborn can pass in a blur. Anything you can do to make the lives of the new parents easier will be appreciated. If you cook then deliver a meal for their supper, that’s one less thing for them to worry about!
Remember mom
In the excitement of welcoming a new baby to the world, we tend to forget that it’s not just a baby that has been born – new parents have been ‘born’ too. Often the needs of the parents are sidelined once baby arrives so, when you visit, ask how they are doing, and make sure they know that you’re there to see them, as well as the baby.
Make the tea yourself
While you might be a guest in their house, it doesn’t mean you can’t offer to make a cup of tea when you pop in for a visit. And wash the dishes you’ve used before you leave – new parents will appreciate the gesture and having a moment to relax.
Keep your visit short
New parents are exhausted and, while they might be happy to have you visit, entertaining guests can be hard work. Pop in to say ‘hi’ and be careful not to overstay your welcome.